We all want acceptance!
I was feeling rather nostalgic, the other day and I thought back to one of the jobs I had before I started my own business. It wasn’t my last job, it was the second to the last job. Ugh, I hated that job and I hated my boss.
I worked in a K-Mart back when K-Mart was the big place in discount shopping. We didn’t know what a WalMart was. Apparently, neither did corporate.
I think I’ve told this story before, but it’s been a while so why not tell it again?
My boss was a guy named Ron Montgomery. He was a weaselly, ferret faced guy. He was the store’s manager. He didn’t like me and I didn’t like him. I showed up every day and did my job, well. When it came time for a raise review, I was called up to his office. I got a raise the first time, but the second time he said, “I’m not going to give you a raise, because you don’t smile enough.” I said, “What?” He said, “Smile more and I’ll see you in 6 months.”
It was 6 months later and I was up for a raise. The same deal. I was called to his office. He said, “I’m not giving you a raise this time either because now you smile too much.” He was lucky that he had an assistant manager with him, in the room. I thought I’d jump over his desk. That would’ve been ugly!
Looking back on it, missing those raises got me to leave that job and 18 months later I started my own business.
I want to know why I wasn’t acceptable to Ron Montgomery?
I showed up for work every day that I was scheduled. I worked overtime when he asked me to. I even said yes to working at 5:00 AM in the morning during the Christmas season. There were about 10 of us who were asked to start at 5:00 AM and work until 1:00 PM. That was 6 weeks of misery. I even said yes when they asked my to work overnight, in the store, to scrape wax off of the floor around the counters. I worked from 11 PM to 7:00 AM crawling around on my hands and knees scraping wax, for a week.
They treated me like crap and never gave me a raise, because they said I didn’t smile enough. Well, no wonder I didn’t smile!
What I want to know is this, are we treating our downlines like that? Are we treating them with a lack of respect? Are we accepting them for who they are? They are human beings.
We’re taught to only work with people who are working their businesses. The rest of them are shunned. They “don’t qualify for our time.” I understand that the people who aren’t producing might never do much with their business, but there are some of them that are just looking for a bit of encouragement and a direction to go in.
I was one of those distributors, who didn’t do much with my business, until my sponsor gave me a little encouragement. He gave me a direction to go in and I responded by reaching the top level of the company in less than a year.
How many people, like me, do you have on your team, right now? How would you know?
I know you’re worried about wasting your time, but you can help people without taking all of your time. Give them assignments and make sure that they complete them, correctly, before you move forward with them.
You can accept your distributors where they are. You can teach them and encourage them to be better than they are now. You an help them, with a minimum of time and see what happens. You never know when you have a diamond in the rough.
Your downline may not deserve your time, but they definitely deserve your respect and your acceptance!
To Ron Montgomery, thank you for being a jerk! If you had given me those raises, no telling where I’d be now … Maybe I’d still be working at a K-Mart. Ugh! That thought makes my skin crawl.
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