How can I develop self confidence?
Developing Confidence and Self Esteem
In my personal opinion, I think that having self confidence is critical to building a business. Well, it’s critical in most everything that we do or try to do!
Again, to me, I think that to build self confidence, that you need to build the three components of confidence. They are self esteem, self worth and personal effectiveness.
Building self confidence is no easy task. It can take years. It begs the questions, do you need to be “self confident” to accomplish things? I answer that question with a qualified “No!” Why would I qualify that answer? Because you can accomplish things with no self confidence. It happens everyday!
If you have ever seen the movie “Back to the Future,” you witnessed someone with virtually no self confidence accomplish great things. In the scene where Biff is attacking Lorraine in the car, at the dance and George McFly pulls Biff out of the car and punches him right in the face. Knocks him out, no less. You could hardly have found someone with lower self confidence than George McFly. Yet, he saved the girl!
As you can see, self confidence is not always needed to make things happen.
I do think that having self confidence makes it more likely and easier to accomplish things.
How does one build self confidence?
How can I develop self confidence … By building self esteem
First things first. What is self esteem? Self esteem is how you view yourself. It is how you feel about yourself.
To build self esteem you need to come to some sort of acceptance of yourself. Who you are now, is okay. Feeling good about yourself doesn’t mean that your are perfect and it doesn’t mean that you don’t have areas of your life that you can improve.
Everyone can improve in some areas of their life. Why should you be any different?
No matter where you’ve come from. No matter what you have done or haven’t done, you need to come to terms with all of it. You need to be at peace with all of it. Whatever happened, happened. You can’t change the past. You can make your future better, though.
How can I develop self confidence … building self worth
What is self worth? Self worth is the sense that you and your life has value.
Self worth can be developed by adding meaning to your life. You need to live your life with a purpose. This is most easily demonstrated by setting goals for yourself. Your goals can be grandiose but, they don’t have to be. You can set a goal to start a charity to help crickets with broken legs or it can be as simple as finding a new job.
I guess in this economy, that isn’t so simple.
Once you have a purpose, a goal, you have given your life new meaning. You are starting down a new path. You will become a new person, once you reach your goals.
How can I develop self confidence … building self effectiveness
What is self effectiveness? Self effectiveness is being able to accomplish tasks. It is being able to do things.
I recently had some problems with my car. I’ve done some minor repair work to my vehicles, over the years. I’ve changed the oil, changed out the brakes and I’ve even opened up a transmission. As fate would have it, I was able to do all of what I set out to do, with the repairs. For bigger stuff, I take it to my mechanic.
Over the years, I’ve build some self confidence when it comes to car repairs. It wasn’t always like that.
The first thing that I tried, other than an oil change was changing out bad brakes. I was scared to death. My first thought was that I’d get out on the highway and crash and die. It was a silly thought because I would test the brakes in my driveway before I’d ever go out on the highway.
I had a friend come over and show me how to change the brakes. He didn’t do it for me but, he showed me, step by step, how to do it. As it turns out, it really wasn’t that difficult. It was dirty but, fair easy.
The next time I had to change a set of brakes, it was really easy and took half the time!
Just doing things will build self effectiveness. Even if they are small accomplishments. It doesn’t matter. Make a list of new things to do and try them. If you don’t get it right the first time, at least learn from the error and try it again.
Edison tried 10,000 times to get a light bulb that worked. Would you try something 10,000?
How can I develop self confidence … motivation vs. self confidence
Have you ever read a book, listened to a tape, gone to hear a motivational speaker or been to a network marketing conference? Anyone who is serious about developing their self confidence would surely answer yes to having done one or more of these things.
I’ve done all of them!
I have always wondered why I could do those things, read books or go to a motivational conference, and walk away feeling great. Like I could conquer the world. Then a few days later, I’d be right back to where I was before.
It kind of makes you feel worse. I was “ready go after it”, whatever it was, but, never was able to get moving.
Then I realized that motivation without action is, not only worthless, it is counter productive.
The keyword of the day is … ACTION!
If you want to build your self confidence, then you need to take some sort of action.
The first thing that you will need to do is to set a goal. Make it fairly easy but, not too easy. You want to get that sense of accomplishment when you are done.
It’s like riding a bicycle. Well, it’s like learning to ride a bicycle.
“How can I develop self confidence?”
The goal is to learn to ride a bike.
You might start off with a tricycle. You can’t fall and get hurt. It requires no balance. But you get the fun of moving yourself along by pedaling. Ah, the breeze in your face. What a great feeling that was! Then you move up to a real bicycle. Your parents put training wheel on it. Again, you can’t fall and get hurt, unless you really work at it! You can go faster on a bike. Ah, the wind in your face! Then comes the real test. You take the training wheels off. Yes, you can fall and really get hurt! Even knowing what could happen to you, you are willing to throw caution to the wind and try this.
Sure, you fall a bunch. Skinned knees and worse. For some reason you keep getting back on the seat. You pedal off, with parent in tow, and give it a go. You fall some more. Bruises, scrapes and cuts for your trouble. Then miracles of miracles. You find your balance and your off to the races.
Think back to how that felt! What a great accomplishment. You were now and you were always going to be a bicycle rider!!
This is pretty typical of trying anything new.
The single most important factor in building your self confidence is action. It’s moving toward a goal.
Motivation combined with action is nearly unstoppable. As long as you don’t give up, you can and will accomplish nearly everything that you are willing to try!
Homework: How can I develop self confidence …
Set a goal for yourself. It doesn’t matter what it is. As long as it is out of your comfort zone. It has to be something that you have, at least, a small amount of fear about. Give yourself a time limit. A day or a week, whatever seems fair. Then take action. Then do what you have to do to reach your goal. Accomplish something! Do this every day! Keep moving … keep moving forward!
It’s cliché but, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!
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