Your happiness matters!
The people who made the movie, of the same title, misspelled happiness. I did watch the movie, but I couldn’t tell you why they did that. Does anyone know the answer?
This article will tell you 10 things that you can do to increase your happiness. All of these things have their backing in scientific research. I didn’t make up any of them.
Stop and smell the roses
There is a lot of hustle bustle in our lives, these days. When was the last time that you slowed down enough to enjoy the small things in life? Like smelling a rose. Looking at the leaves as they change colors in the fall. Or building a snowman, in the winter.
Most of us can remember doing these things, when we had the time. Nowadays, we are so busy that all of them fade into the background. These small things can be quite enjoyable and some can be beautiful. When was the last time you admired a rainbow after a storm?
Don’t compare yourself to others
There are very few things that can be as disheartening as comparing yourself to someone else. Most people tend to compare, “up.” Meaning that the person that they decide to compare themselves to has accomplished more than they have. Maybe the other person has a nicer home or car. They may be able to afford to send their children to a private school and you aren’t able to do that for your children. That kind of comparison may not be fair and it certainly won’t make you happy.
If you need to do a comparison, be sure to compare yourself to the way you used to be. The only person that you should ever compete against is the “old you.”
Lower making money on your list of priorities
This may seem like an impossible task. Money is certainly necessary to live, in our society. This lowering isn’t the same as not making money. People tend to be less happy when they make money their priority.
I would say that making money should be the by product of your activities. It could be the by product of helping other people.
You should have meaningful goals
These are not just any goals. They don’t have to be big or small goals. They just have to have a lot of meaning to you. A meaningful goal might be to provide someone with something. Like paying for your child’s education. Or donating a wheelchair to a hospital.
This type of goal should add meaning to every aspect of your life. It will make you feel good about yourself and make you happier.
Take the initiative at work or in your business
Taking the initiative whenever and where you can will increase the control you have over your own life. Feeling like you are in control or your life is very empowering and will add to your happiness! That pat on the back and the “atta boys,” that you will get at work will feel good too.
Make new friends and have close family ties
Having close friends and family to share your life with will definitely increase your happiness. It’s tough and at times can be depressing to feel like you are alone in this world. Most things in life are better when you can share them with friends and family.
Believe it or not, smiling more really does make you feel better. Smile even when you really don’t feel like it. Eventually, your attitude will catch up to your face.
A smile doesn’t cost you anything, but it can make others feel good. A smile is contagious. It is inviting and is disarming. A smile will let people know that you can be trusted.
Have a grateful attitude
I can virtually guarantee you that you have at least one thing, in your life, that you are grateful for, every day. If you look hard enough, you will find it. Acknowledging the good things in our lives makes us feel better. If you are truly grateful, all the bad stuff, in your life, won’t seem so bad!
Yeah, I know. You don’t want to exercise. I’m not talking about doing a marathon. If you want to feel happy, get your endorphins flowing. Take a brisk, mile walk, three times a week. Once you get used to that, I’ll bet that you want to walk more!
It’s nice to make money, because of all the things that you can do with it. If you can afford it, try giving some of it away. Making a donation to a homeless person, the local library or your favorite charity will make you feel good about yourself. Most people enjoy helping others. Especially when they are in need.
Its difficult to go through life and not have someone do something to you. Something that seems incomprehensible and unforgivable. Maybe someone used you. They may have “knifed you in the back.” They could’ve lied, cheated or stolen from you. Who knows how someone may have hurt you so bad?
It’s time to let go of it.
It’s tough. It is one of the most difficult things to do. I can tell you from experience that you’ll go through life thinking about the misdeed. You will relive that pain over and over again. The bad news is that it punishes you. You will feel bad for the rest of your life, if you don’t forgive.
They hurt you, but they’ve probably forgotten all about it by now. They didn’t care when it happened, what makes you think that they even think about it, now?
Keep in mind that forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you have to put yourself in harms way again. You do not have to give them the opportunity to hurt you again.
I’m not sure that I made it up or not, but one of my favorite sayings is, “It’s not a problem, until it’s a problem.”
What does that mean?
There are many things that you could spend your time worrying about. Things that haven’t happened yet, are nothing to worry about.
I’ll give you an example of what I mean.
You have an important meeting that you and another person have to go to. You’re a bit early for the meeting, but the other person hasn’t arrive yet. You start to worry that they will be late or won’t show up at all.
It may seem that it would be an appropriate time to worry. It may seem like it is a problem, but I can assure you that until the meeting starts, it isn’t a problem. There isn’t really a reason to worry, yet.
If they are late, then feel free to worry, but don’t waste your time worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet. There will be plenty of time for when the time comes!
Those are 12 things that you do … or not do, to continually increase your own happiness!
Do you have any other suggestions that you can add to the list?
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