Can you be a success?
If I asked you if you wanted to be successful, what would you say? I would think that most people would say, “Yes,” that they wanted to be successful. However, it’s amazing how many people can’t get out of their way in order to achieve the success that they say they want. They are sabotaging their own success and many of them don’t even realize that they are doing it.
No one likes to be wrong and people don’t want to admit that they are the problem. The “don’t blame me” attitude is running rampant in today’s society. If it turns out that their lack of success is their fault, they would need to change. Not many people like change. They might not mind having their circumstances change, but to make changes to themselves is more than most people care to do.
“A leopard can’t change its spots” and “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” are popular saying for a reason. For the most part, they’re true!
If you can admit to yourself that you’re the problem, that you’ve been the one standing in your way, you have a chance of freeing yourself and being able to move forward.
Here is a list of 5 very common ways that people are sabotage themselves.
Having fears is natural, but giving into them is the fastest path to failure.
Letting their fears run their life is one of the most common ways that people are sabotaging their success. There are many things that people are afraid of, like fear of success, fear of failure, fear of responsibility and fear of rejection. If you give into these fears, you will never be a success.
The only real way of overcoming a fear is to face it head on and break through it. If you have a fear of public speaking, you can get over that fear by getting up in front of a group of people and speaking. To get over a fear of rejection, you have to put yourself in a situation where you can get rejected and finding out that you will survive it. If you do these things often enough, your fear will fade. It may never fully go away, but you an get to a point where it won’t control you.
Not investing in yourself and your education
When you’re born, you don’t know how to do many things and the things that you do know how to do are pretty gross! We have built in mentors, our parents. They come to our rescue and teach the basic things that we need to know. They teach us to walk and to ride a bike. They teach us to brush our teeth and hold their hand when we cross the street. They teach us to tie our shoes and say please and thank you. Then they send you off to school to learn how to read, write and do arithmetic.
When we finish our school, we still don’t know how to do much. We get a job that we don’t really know how to do. They teach us how they want the job done and then we work for the rest of our lives.
If we want to learn how to do new things, we need to be taught how to do them! The bad news is that, for the most part, we aren’t really required to learn anything new. We have to want to do that extra work just because we want to improve ourselves and build new skills.
After going to school and learning things for 20 to 25 years, most people have had enough of education. They just want to live their lives.
If you stop learning, you’ll stop growing. This is another way that people are sabotaging their success.
Having an entitlement attitude
In my opinion, the last third of the 20th century gave birth to children who had parents who worked their rear ends off and were able to provide them with nearly any material thing that they could ever want or desire. The thing that these parents lacked was time to spend with their children. They had to invent new terms to make themselves feel better about not making the time for their kids. The most popular of these new terms was “quality time.” If they only had 30 minutes to spend with the children, they called it “quality time” and that was suppose to make up for it being such a short amount of time. I guess that made them feel better about it.
These parents would spend money on their children instead of spend time with them. Again, to make themselves feel better. The problem with this is that the kids started to expect that money would be spent on them. That the lack of time with their parents entitled them to all the things that money could buy.
Unfortunately, we have a generation of people who believe that they are owed something. They believe that life or society owes them a living or owes them success. They aren’t required to earn anything. They believe that success should be handed to them.
The really bad news is that there aren’t any free rides, in life. They need to realize that the gravy train has stopped running and they will need to work for what they want.
If you have an attitude of entitlement, you are sabotaging you’re success.
Not taking responsibility for your successes and failures
We’ve all had bad things happen to us in our lives. Some of them were under our control. We made the decisions and we must live with the consequences. Some things were not in our control. We may have had things happen to us, by other people, that we couldn’t control. We may have had an accident through no fault of our own.
Our circumstances don’t dictate how our lives will go. How we react to those circumstances does. We can overcome almost anything obstacle that’s placed in our way, if we want to overcome it.
They did a study of the most famous and influential people of the 20th century and found that 75% of them either started their lives in poverty or with some physical defect. They were able to overcome what would’ve stopped most people. They just wanted it more than most people!
You are responsible for your own success or failure. Stop blaming other people and stop blaming your circumstances and take charge of your life. You can step into your greatness, if you want it badly enough!
It seems that a lot, if not most people, sabotage themselves by failing to start. You can’t finish the race if you don’t get out of the start gate. Believe in yourself, trust the system and get started. It doesn’t matter how slowly you are starting. It only matters that you are moving forward. Your confidence will build as you have small successes along your journey.
Remember that motivation will help you to get started, habits will keep you going and longevity will make you successful!
It’s time for you to forget your past and get out of your own way. Stop sabotaging yourself and start down the path to success. You won’t regret it.
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