A tribute to Nathan David Canson



It was last Sunday morning June 4, 2017, and there was an insistent knock on the front door of our home.  Who would be knocking at our door on a Sunday morning?  We thought that we’d ignore it and hope they went away.  Our dogs were going nuts and the knocking wouldn’t stop.  My wife volunteered to answer it.  At first, I thought that it was a salesman, but it was taking so long for my wife to come back upstairs.  It was probably 5 minutes and she finally came back and she dropped to the floor crying.  Wailing was a more accurate description.  She cried out that our oldest son had died.


The police said that they didn’t suspect foul play, but they insisted on performing an autopsy.  They found out that he had a 75% to 80% blockage of two of his arteries.  Basically, he had a heart attack.  Other than having him on an operating table for bypass surgery, there was nothing that anyone could’ve done for him.  We had no idea that he was that sick.  He was just 28 years old.


Needless to say, the whole family has been distraught.  We spent all of the next week putting together a funeral for him.  That was in between shedding tears, not eating and having many, many people over to the house.  The service was extremely nice and the church was exceptionally helpful with that.  I wanted to write a tribute to him, but I knew that there was no way that I could get up and read it.  It was very hard just to write it.  One of the pastors read it for me.  He did a decent job.  He read it a lot faster than I would’ve wanted him to, but I guess beggars can’t be choosers.


I only wrote about a third of what I wanted to, but here is my tribute …


A tribute to Nathan David Canson

Who my son really was



We all know that Nathan had his problems. He could be a nuisance, but he was our nuisance.  Unfortunately, he was very misunderstood, even by those who were closest to him. Most people just saw the nuisance. If you didn’t look deeper, you’d miss the good parts. He had a heart of gold. He was kind, loving and generous to a fault. He loved God, he loved his friends and family and he loved life, but you wouldn’t know that if you didn’t look for it.



He had hopes, dreams, and goals for his life. His immediate goal was to find a job. His long term goal was to go back to school to become a counselor. He wanted to help people who were in a similar situation to where he found himself.



He was so proud of Darren and Samantha when they got married. It meant the world to him that he was your best man. He worried about Richy. He thought Richy was too young for all of the responsibilities he was taking on, but he told me that he would be there to help you through it.  He was so excited to be an uncle, three times over.



He talked about Matthew, often and just knew that you’d do great things with your life. He wanted to be there for you, to help you and guide you.



He loved his grandparents. He even called my mom, Grammy. He appreciated everything that you did for him. He had just come back from a month with his grandparents in Florida. He looked better than I had seen him in a long time.



He loved his parents and even included me in there. As with any boy, he loved his Mom most of all!



In his book, “The Five Love Languages,” Dr. Gary Chapman describes how people love others and how they want to be loved. One of the languages of love is gift giving. Which is how Nathan showed his love to others.



It kind of makes sense now, doesn’t it?



If he ever gave you a gift, you should know that it didn’t matter whether it was a pair of used yellow sneakers, a cell phone, a used pair of boxing gloves, a book you probably never read or shiny silver necklace, he was telling you that he loved you. He bought us the gifts that he could afford, but it was always from his heart!



He was very misunderstood.



You are our son, our grandson, our brother, our cousin, our nephew and our friend. You will always be loved and never forgotten. You have touch our lives’ and left an indelible mark on each of us. Thank you for all you gave us and may God bless you and watch over you until we see you again.



I’d like to say thank you to all of you who have gathered with us to say goodbye to Nathan. It is a great gift that you give him.

I Love You!



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