It’s not very often that I talk about myself on this blog. I consider myself to be a very private person. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or not. I prefer to keep my private life, well, private. If I decide to have a chicken salad sandwich for lunch, I’m probably not going to tweet about it. Why would anyone want to know what I ate for lunch, anyway?
The title of this article may be a little misleading. This article isn’t about you taking responsibility for yourself, at least not directly, it’s about me taking responsibility for myself.
I’ve read tons of self help and success books, over the years. I started doing that back in my Amway days. I read things like Think and Grow Rich and How to Win Friends and Influence People. How To Win Friends is still my favorite book of all time. I highly recommend it, if you haven’t read it!
Even with all of my reading, I still found myself kind of floating through life. It’s not that I didn’t take responsibility for myself, it’s more that I didn’t go out and make things happen. I didn’t really take charge of my life.
I did go out and find my second job which led to my third job. Neither of which I would’ve have really wanted. They were in retail and retail management. I didn’t really like either job, but they paid the bills. I realize now, that saying, “It’s a job,” or “It pays the bills,” that what I was really saying that I wasn’t doing what I wanted to be doing.
It was when I was winding down, in my retail management job, that a friend from high school and college called me to offer me a “partnership” in the businesses that he was working in. I had thought about owning a business of my own, but I don’t know if I ever would’ve done that. I’m not sure where I’d be right now if I hadn’t gotten that call at the right time in my life.
I wound up in the business I own, not because this is the business I always dreamed of, but because this is one of the businesses that my friend was working in, at the time. I’m not sure that’s a good reason to be in a business. Of course once I bought a house, had kids and bought a car and another car and another car, I was pretty much trapped. The thought of trying to find another way to make the same income that I was generating in my business was daunting, to say the least.
My life has been a case of having an opportunity present itself and me deciding if I want to go in that direction. I didn’t have a clear plan for myself. Think and Grow Rich taught me to have goals and I did write them down, but I never had a real plan for achieving those goals.
I can relate my life to a bus stop. I’m waiting at a bus stop and I watch the buses come and go. They are going this way and that way and I try to decide if I want to jump on one and take a ride in that direction. If I don’t like it or get tired of it, I can get off at the next stop and wait for the next bus to come along. Yes, I’ve been making the decisions, but I can only choose from the opportunities that come my way.
I’m thinking that life shouldn’t be like that. I should have a good idea on where I want to go and then develop a way to get there.
I’ve never blamed anyone else for where I wound up in life. I got here because of the choices I’ve made and the decisions I’ve made. It’s all me!
All of these revelations are great, but now for the hard part. Trying to figure out what I really want.
That wasn’t cathartic for me.
If you think that you’re on that same kind of life path, maybe you should slow down and figure out what you really want and how you’re going to get those things! If you don’t do that, you may ended up somewhere that you don’t want to be.
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